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About the author
Hi.
Okay. The only thing that is really important about me is that you learn what my level of experience is and then decide for yourself whether I should know what I'm talking about. I have been a
police officer since 1982, and I have been a detective assigned to
investigate Domestic Violence and Stalking since 2003. This does not
make me an expert on the topic of stalking but it has given me quite a
bit of experience in actual case investigations. All the information on
this website is from my experience, not from what I read in a book.
If you want to know what scholars consider the theories of stalking to be,
then you will find many websites that will help you. If you want to
learn a few tactics that can help you discourage your stalker, then you
are in the right place.
I work for a major police department, there are about two million residents living within it's jurisdiction.
Why don't I give my name and my department's name? Because it is not
important to any individual's case. A recurring theme on this website
is that I encourage people who are being stalked to make a report with
their local police department, and follow up with the detective assigned to their case. I'm not
trying to cause a rise in the amount of stalking reports, believe me
that no government employee intentionally increases his workload! What
I want is for people to know that they can get help from their local police
department, help which is specific to their case and the problems they
are facing. A detective or officer can give you personal attention and lay out a game plan to combat the specific threats you are facing.
Another reason I don't reveal my name and department, is that nothing is easy
in government. If I told my supervisors that I wanted to make this
website they would not approve it until I first supplied a complete
copy of everything that would appear on the website. They would then
send it up the chain of command and the head of our department would
want to form a committee to analyze the material, change things that
might not be politically correct, rewrite several topics, add a
recruitment pitch to entice new officers, and put their names all over
it so that when they come up for re-election they can point to it and say
"look what I've done, vote for me." Every time I wanted to add a new
topic, I would have to go through it all over again.
Lastly
I don't want to candy-coat my message. Our detective detail recently created a program in which we identify the Domestic Violence Suspects who we feel are likely to seriously injure or murder their spouse or lover based on their recurring batteries, violent offense record, drug/alcohol use, and a few other factors. Out of all the DV cases we handle, we think this affects a small percentage, but we want those recurring victims to know that we have a program which we think can help them get out of an abusive relationship if they want to. We realize that love is a fickle thing and some victims would rather continue their relationship. That's their business and we wont butt-in if they don't want us to. The rough draft I came up with ended with the line: Your personal safety is your responsibility. We feel that we can help you if you will let us. I presented my rough draft and within a couple hours that line had been rewritten to: Your safety is our greatest concern and we will do all we can to help you. That's what I call candy-coating. It may be a more politically correct way of saying it, but I feel that it gives the impression that the victim doesn't have to do anything to protect themselves, the police will keep them safe. It's nonsense. The Secret Service can't prevent assassination attempts on the president and they have agents around him at all times. The police certainly can't stop what happens in the privacy of a persons own home. If I name the department I work for, my supervisors will then feel they have a responsibility to deliver the departments message not mine.
Sorry, I'm not interested in all that. I would rather lay out my ideas and if they
help you, then I'm happy, tell a friend. If you think my ideas are
useless, then I hope you keep looking and find what you're searching for.
If you really have to have a name for me, you can think of me as Detective P, but remember, the message is what's important, not the message bearer.
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